“The most popular time to sext is Tuesday between 10:00 A.M. and noon. Yes, we looked this up twice. Strange!”

23453112What is this book about?

All the difficulties we have to deal with while trying to find love in the modern world. Comedian Aziz Ansari and sociologist Eric Klinenberg did extensive research into the modern dating world and share their finds with us while making us laugh.

Why is it boring?

A lot of the book is explaining what we do when we like people and why we do it. It’s not straight up funny constantly, which is a good thing, because then you wouldn’t learn. But learning is boring again, isn’t it? The only actual boring thing is that they mention a lot of studies that are pretty well-known. Besides that the book is great fun.

Who would you recommend it to?

If dating is mind-boggling to you or if you’re fed up with how your dating life is going, definitely read this. Ansari and Klinenberg will give you insight in how people think about dating and what works and what doesn’t. They will even teach you what type of message to send to your potential love interest. It can be that practical!

Why should I read it if it’s boring?!

I listened to the audiobook version of the book, which was fun and a shame in it’s own way. Aziz Ansari constantly told me I was lazy for not reading myself and tried to explain all the pretty graphs that I was missing by not having the book. This was great and I loved how they made the audio version as an audiobook instead of just reading the actual book out loud. So great job on using audiobooks as a different medium! One of the biggest ‘flaws’ of the book is something that the writers attack head on. They state at the start that the book is focusing mostly on heterosexual relationships where the man is expected to make the first move. They also explain they mostly interviewed people who’ve had higher education and are well-off. By stating this at the start I felt like they went into the book with honesty, being clear about what they were and weren’t trying to say. Although the authors did do extensive research for the book, I had hoped to get some more answer. I do think it was interesting to hear about real-life examples, having people show the authors their phones and messages and hear what they did and didn’t like. The book isn’t an advice or self-help book, but really an overview of our modern dating life and how people try to navigate it. I think the authors did a great job writing an informative and laugh-out-loud funny book and it was refreshing to see a celebrity-book with a wider scope.

Rating: 3,5/5

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Esmée de Heer is head honcho over at the Bored to Death book club website, writing the daily content and making sure the site stays up and running. She's one of the founding sisters of the book club and enjoys reading and giving unsolicited love advice.

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